When I set up my blog, I told myself that I didn’t want it to ever become an outlet for my inane rants that nobody but me cares about – if that was my intention, I should have just got a diary to write in, it would be a lot less potentially socially destructive. Of course, I knew that certain topics that I chose to write about would cause me to share my feelings, but I promised myself I’d do so in a constructive manner so that it wouldn’t turn others off from reading.
This pact I made with myself is similar to the rule I have about not ‘Vaguebooking’, which – for those of you who don’t know Urban Dictionary – is when someone posts something intentionally vague as their Facebook (and Twitter) status update so that it prompts friends to ask what’s going on. I think it’s childish and it riles me up when I see someone else’s ‘Vaguebook’ status. I feel like furiously typing: “Get a grip! Ring someone who cares instead of trying to provoke a reaction from the whole world!”, but then, that’s no way to make friends and influence people…
That said, I am terribly ashamed to admit that this afternoon – stressed and pissed off – I ‘vaguebooked’ on Twitter. I knew I shouldn’t have but, as I shamefully tweeted, I was “at the end of my tether… yet again” with certain factors in my life that I can’t change right now and I needed an outlet because all I could see were the negatives of my situation. As soon as I posted the tweet, I thought: “Oh bloody hell, what was the point of that?” All I wanted was to see things in more of a positive light and no amount of ranting via Twitter was going to help that.
Still in a grumpy mood, I carried on doing some research for work on the net when I randomly came across a quote that struck a chord with me and suddenly – just like it happens in Hollywood but rarely happens in real life – I gained some clarity on my situation and with it, the positivity that I’d been looking for. The quote was this:
“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
This may sound like a generic, riddle of a quote to some but it really made sense to me and renewed the positivity I needed to see the good things in my situation and be able to treasure them. Maybe you’re wondering what my ‘situation’ is… well, I could tell you but that would be being too specific, wouldn’t it? 😉